Learning from great examples

Hey, guess what I found the other day for you on youtube? While I was looking for good groom wedding speech examples, I found a really good one and it’s really funny, too. It has almost all the important elements. It is a great grooms speech. So enjoy:

This guy definitely did his homework. He must have had some very good examples.

Quick Recap: Points of great toast examples

While he makes everyone laugh, in the next sentence he also manages to express his feelings and appreciation for his bride, without being cheesy. She is so moved – she got tears in her eyes. Notice that he thanked some people, he is funny telling jokes but at the same time expressing his feelings. The whole time he hast got 100% attention of the guests. This guy really did an excellent job.

So I guess you noticed it already – and this is also my final secret to your personal great wedding speech: If you want to give a true excellent talk that stuns everyone, learn from the best and get your hands on some excellent speech examples. My advice is certainly not to go and use them as they are. But instead, if you have started out with brainstorming and followed the steps mentioned below – you should come up with your own great personal ideas. Now get some examples and mix the best of these examples with your unique personality and your personal thoughts. Then you will be giving the best groom wedding speech possible. Use Youtube as source of ideas:

http://www.youtube.com/ – Just search for “groom wedding speech” to get some examples. You will find some good and some rather bad examples. Both are very valuable: Learn from the good what to do and from the rather bad what to avoid. This will help you determine what/how you want to be as well as what and how you certainly do not want to be, which is pretty helpful. But don’t lose too much time there. Don’t watch more than like 10 videos or so, and take notes. If you try to watch more, or even all you find… – …you will lose the important time you need to prepare – instead of just watching others doing their thing.

After I watched several marriage speeches on youtube, I found lots of examples of what I did like and what I did not like – and I got a better idea of how my groom wedding speech should be. But I really wanted to go go the extra mile – and so I was looking for real high quality written text, which I could use for ideas and as a base for my very own  speech. So here it is: My mostly hidden secret. The one thing, that saved me about 90% of the time to write my own speech and stunned everyone. If you also want to save much time and hours of searching, or sitting in front of a white paper try my secret source.

Find an awesome toast on youtube, see what you like, take notes and put that together with my secret source of professional speeches.

Toast Order Tips

Now, here are some tips for your groom wedding speech for the speech order. Preparing a good speech is not an easy thing to do. Maybe it is because so many different guests have several expectations. No one should be talked about too long, no one should be forgotten – and after all, it is all supposed to be packed in just a few minutes.

In this time frame you would want to manage to thank everybody, tell amusing and great things regarding your bride, expressing your deep love and charming her with very personal authentic compliments, along with your appreciation of her. This may seem to be an extremely difficult challenge. It might take even more effort to get your guests rolling on the floor laughing as well. But guess what? It is possible! By taking the right speech order of the already discussed elements.

So what is the best wedding speech order?

At first for the best speech order, begin your groom wedding speech by having an introduction. This will you get the attention and can connect to your bride and the wedding guests. Ideally, your speech order should…

• begin with ease
• become amusing in between and
• end with an emotional note.

But watch out: Without having a crystal clear concept, even a short groom wedding speech can go haywire and become very boring.

Also don’t forget to thank people. Most likely your parents, your Best Man, your siblings…, maybe your friends and everyone who had an impact on your marriage or your relationship. But don’t just thank people, be specific about what you are thanking people for and keep it short. But most important don’t forget to thank your new spouse. She will be surprised about that but will well appreciate it.

For the amusing part – be sure to get some real quality that keeps everybody listening and to grab their attention. This will make sure, they pay attention to your words and your speech order is not boring.

If you decide to follow these guidelines and use this wedding speech order – I am sure, your speech is going to be one of the better ones.

Do’s and Don’t s for Great Toasts

You probably know, the main thing that is needed for all great wedding speeches is practice. Of course you need to prepare your speech so you can actually practice. Before you actually start taking the brainstorm notes you come up with have so far and turn them into your speech, it is very important to understand the key elements you want to do and want to avoid to model the wedding speech etiquette for real great speeches. Doing the “do’s” and avoiding the “don’t s”, your groom wedding speech becomes art.

Do’s – giving great toasts:

• be prepared – practice beforehand, don’t excuse yourself for not being prepared is key for all great speeches
• always focusing on the positive attributes is a major element of all great marriage speeches. Focus on the positive of everything and everyone you mention
• using notes is a natural part of all great speeches – this will make you feel confident and make sure you won’t forget important parts
• thank all the people that helped make your marriage day special – this includes from her and your parents and families over everyone who helped to everyone attending. Make sure you don’t forget anyone, but make it sweet and short
• make your bride feel very special – this is her day, she devotes the rest of her life to you. Make sure she and everyone attending knows your feelings towards her (say it romantic, not cheesy), bring in your emotions – make them feel this love
• Talk shortly but deeply about the main things you fell in love with your brides personality – make your bride look really good, so everyone must think you are the luckiest man in town since you are now married to this woman

Don’t s – giving great toasts:

• make sure you do not get drunk or drink too much before your speech. Alcohol is one of the biggest enemies and can easily ruin great wedding speeches. Make sure you stay clear in your head as you speak
• don’t talk about prior relationships (this is so obvious – and can also be taken as rule for your whole marriage – this will definitely immediately ruin any speech and turn out embarrassing for you and your future wife
• don’t try to be too funny making the whole thing just one big laughter. It is your wedding – people want to laugh and feel good, but they especially want to feel the deep love the two of you have for each other – say things so they can feel this
• don’t talk about sex or use jokes about sex. The bride will always feel embarrassed and depreciated and it again will ruin any speech
• don’t talk bad about anyone or anything, don’t use negative terms in talking of things and people. Also do not make fun of anyone (especially not your or her parents and family)

By following these guidelines, your toast will be taken into account among the great marriage toasts, people will remember for years.

Fear – Your #1 Enemy on Your Perfect Day

As I started to realize that’s writing my own groom wedding speech was much harder than I thought in the very beginning, I almost started to panic. I thought I would not have enough time before my marriage day to prepare for propelling speech. I already saw myself failing.

Why many grooms fail to give a good toast

Then I started to realize that the feeling of fear is only another term of “being unconfident”, and that confidence comes with practice. I gained the impression that grooms who failed giving their groom wedding speeches on their marriage day, were the ones that haven’t prepared and haven’t practiced.

It is interesting that people always think they can do whatever they want within the first attempt. But think about it for new stuff we never did before, the first time is always hard and we most likely won’t reach our goal at the very first try.

Did you succeed in these examples the first attempt?

Remember when you first try to ride a bicycle? Did you just started riding off and everything worked out well? I didn’t. I remember one time blood all over my leg, because I was falling down. Or as you may started to learn how to swim. I tell you my first time I seriously thought I die. Or maybe the first time I tried to hit the basket at basketball. In all these things that I tried to do for the very first time I failed. Well, did I really FAIL? No, not really. I would have failed if I would have given up. But I didn’t. All these things come natural today. Why? Because I did them so many times: In other words I practiced.

The secret to conquer fear and give a great toast

As I realized that and my mind shifted from the idea of failing on my marriage day to practice beforehand, I really calmed down. I understood that if humans do something for first time – it most likely doesn’t turn out perfectly. Excellent results are always a matter of practice. Just like the basketball player has to practice the weeks and months before the great game – you need to practice a little your groom wedding speech before your great day.

Your great speech at your great day

So now you really can relax, because you know you will not feel. All it takes is some practice. You might think: “Well – this is funny: I only wanted to get married once. So how should I practice?”

Be creative how to practice your toast

I guess everyone could come up with their own answer. It’s a matter of what you like. Some people are going to the park, asking some random people they find, giving them their speech. I would never been that tough. I took the easy way, not even with real people. I just took my imagination. Others might take their dog or teddy bear and give them their speech. And that’s all fine. The major thing is that you practice. The more often you practice, the more confident you will become, the less fear you will have.

So look forward to your marriage day, with practice and the next couple of tips coming up, you will be well prepared to give a excellent grooms toast, you really can be proud of.

First Steps to my very own toast

As Beccy and I decided to get married, writing my own groom wedding speech was something I did not really think about. Even though I thought about every word for days, to make sure to create a very romantic, unforgettable moment asking her to marry me.

I realized the importance of giving a good marriage toast

In planning and preparation for the wedding, there was so much to do and so little time that I did not really realize how important this speech would be. Especially not, how challenging this task really was. Obviously, giving your speech is a moment in your life you certainly do not want to mess up.

Imagine everybody who is important to you and your future wife will be there. If you screw up there, you don’t need to mess up any other time in life: People will always remember.

As I realized that, as mentioned on my About page through a grooms speech on a wedding both of us attended. I knew I needed to prepare pretty darn well for this. So I decided to give the best groom wedding speech, I possibly could. But honestly – that made me kind of nervous.

My first attempts to write my own marriage speech

So I sat down and tried to start writing my own speech as I thought I would give it on our marriage day. Hours passed and I did not get any results. So I decided try different creative approaches, but it was not satisfying.

First attempts trying to write my speech - after hours: Just an empty paper

What finally worked for me, writing my own toast

One way that kind of worked for me, was brainstorming different things I wanted to say to the different people. So I took my piece of paper, started writing the names of people I wanted to mention in my speech. Then I created a little mind map of things I wanted to mention for each person. But I crossed most of it out after looking at it a little later.

But still, the best part was Brainstorming my speech. If you want to try it: At this point don’t worry about a certain order, any  jokes or quotes. Just write down, what comes to your mind and let it flow naturally. Simply writing down what comes to your mind will take the pressure off you and you will easily write down your personal ideas.

At this point do not look at any speech examples. Else you will be influenced by what you have read so far. So just let your mind flow, gathering your very own ideas. This is the first step to manage successfully creating your own speech.

Becoming aware of the importance and start some relaxed brainstorming are in my opinion the first important steps to your own unique marriage toast.