Fear – Your #1 Enemy on Your Perfect Day
As I started to realize that’s writing my own groom wedding speech was much harder than I thought in the very beginning, I almost started to panic. I thought I would not have enough time before my marriage day to prepare for propelling speech. I already saw myself failing.
Why many grooms fail to give a good toast
Then I started to realize that the feeling of fear is only another term of “being unconfident”, and that confidence comes with practice. I gained the impression that grooms who failed giving their groom wedding speeches on their marriage day, were the ones that haven’t prepared and haven’t practiced.
It is interesting that people always think they can do whatever they want within the first attempt. But think about it for new stuff we never did before, the first time is always hard and we most likely won’t reach our goal at the very first try.
Did you succeed in these examples the first attempt?
Remember when you first try to ride a bicycle? Did you just started riding off and everything worked out well? I didn’t. I remember one time blood all over my leg, because I was falling down. Or as you may started to learn how to swim. I tell you my first time I seriously thought I die. Or maybe the first time I tried to hit the basket at basketball. In all these things that I tried to do for the very first time I failed. Well, did I really FAIL? No, not really. I would have failed if I would have given up. But I didn’t. All these things come natural today. Why? Because I did them so many times: In other words I practiced.
The secret to conquer fear and give a great toast
As I realized that and my mind shifted from the idea of failing on my marriage day to practice beforehand, I really calmed down. I understood that if humans do something for first time – it most likely doesn’t turn out perfectly. Excellent results are always a matter of practice. Just like the basketball player has to practice the weeks and months before the great game – you need to practice a little your groom wedding speech before your great day.
Your great speech at your great day
So now you really can relax, because you know you will not feel. All it takes is some practice. You might think: “Well – this is funny: I only wanted to get married once. So how should I practice?”
Be creative how to practice your toast
I guess everyone could come up with their own answer. It’s a matter of what you like. Some people are going to the park, asking some random people they find, giving them their speech. I would never been that tough. I took the easy way, not even with real people. I just took my imagination. Others might take their dog or teddy bear and give them their speech. And that’s all fine. The major thing is that you practice. The more often you practice, the more confident you will become, the less fear you will have.
